Wednesday, July 30, 2008

i love my mom!

i love her voice. she's so funny when she calls me but is talking to the people who are there with her. other than the voice of God, hers is probably the voice thats been with me the longest. and other than when its taken a turn for the stern, i really love to hear her speak.

so my parents just landed in Vancouver, British Columbia. they're on their way to a carnival cruise ship to Alaska! i spoke to them around 8:30 pacific this morning, minutes after they'd just made it onto their plane from LA to Canada, and i figured that would be the last time i'd speak to them until they returned sometime next week. and all day i've been thinking about how much i'll miss them. even though i cherish my heart2hearts with Daddy, i only talk to him about once a week. but i talk to my mom like two, sometimes three times day! so i'm bracing myself to not being able to just call and shoot the breeze with her for the next ten days. but i didn't imagine how happy i'd be to see "Mommy" light up in my phone just now. she called to say they'd landed in Vancouver and that their bags had arrived with them, which could've turned out differently since they got to LAX just ten minutes before their flight check-in closed. So, yeah, she called, sounding very chipper to finally be on this trip celebrating their 35th anniversary. and i'm happy for them. i might even be a lil bit jealous that they found each other so early in life. like my parents were younger than me when they got together. and though i'm not necessarily biological clock driven, i am of the frame of mind that because we don't live forever i'd like to spend as much of my time here with the man i love because, once one of use departs life as we know it, we no longer have that option to be with one another. it seems there's never enough time for love, but once it's gone you think back to what you could've done to extend it or welcome it sooner.

i hope to have the same as them one day. it does seems so far away right now though. interestingly enough, i just found out one male friend is getting married on Aug 29th, and i just hit up one of my homeboys, trying to remember if he was getting married in a couple of months or next year. he was like, Oct 4th in New Orleans, "and i can't even believe it... i just may pass out up there!" too funny! he's 29, and doing pretty well as a reporter for the NY Times. i told him that i actually have about five male friends, that i can think of immediately, that are getting married in the next few months/year. he responded that we're getting to that age to where, though guys really love bachelorhood, "there comes a time when you gotta build something that will last." he speaks of being married and having children in very relevant and necessary terms, which is different from a few other young men i know. so, i can dig it. i really can.

so for those five, recently engaged or soon to be married brothas that decided they didn't want to do it without THAT sis, i tip my hat to you. (wait, i'm a girl, so maybe i should be doing a curtsy or something!) that's what's up. that's what's really good. i love LOVE. it's NECESSARY. i love the idea that there are some young people out here who believe in the truth of a life spent with that one soul you love. i believe in it. i understand it ain't simple. but it's reality. it's what i know from my own parents. it's what makes sense to me. 50% divorce rates and such may be someone's reality, but it doesn't HAVE to be yours.

To the Honorable Dr. T. Lee and his lady, Gab, i wish you all a LIFETIME.

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

Favorite/only daughter, I love you dearly. You are a blessing! Trust God to bring the right husband into your life with enough love to last a lifetime. I, too, enjoy our talks and text messaging. It shortens our sea to sea distance. Trust the Lord in all things.

Barbara Perkins said...

Favorite/only daughter, I love you dearly. You are a blessing! Trust God to bring the right husband into your life with enough love to last a lifetime. I, too, enjoy our talks and text messaging. It shortens our sea to sea distance. Trust the Lord in all things.