Sunday, September 10, 2006

this is why he's my best friend...

Hello Lady,

Being on the same page can sometimes be quite a challenge in a relationship. Especially in the first few years. The real thing that you want to know is: Are you at least reading the same book? You can be reading the same book and just be in two different chapters because one of you is a faster reader than the other. The thing is, if you both keep reading, you will eventually end up on the same page. Your momma and I started out reading the same book meaning that we wanted to be together. But, for a long while, about three years, we were on very different pages. With her dreams and aspirations leading to being a teacher and mine leading to being a musician, naturally it was very difficult to reach a common ground of reading. We wanted to be together (same book) so, eventually, we made it work (same page).

Not being on the same page with someone only makes a big difference if you are not reading the same book. Some people are quicker in defining the book they are reading than others...TIME. Some people have to overcome the fear of the commitment that the reading is leading them to...TIME. There is the sorting out of thoughts...TIME. Overcoming uncertainties and such...TIME. There are all kinds of things that can take...TIME. Once all of the issues are unclouded, if you realize that you are reading the same book, then you have to decide if it is worth it to take the time to get on the same page.

If you find that you are not reading the same book, then you know you will never get on the same page, and you can act accordingly. If you want romance and he wants friendship...different book.

Like I said, commitment is a scary thing for some people. Especially these days for some reason. Give things time to play out. If you keep your feelings in check by being realistic to whatever the situation is and see how it plays out, you can't lose either way. If you make your case to someone about how you feel, you don't have to keep making it. You never have to mention it again until that person does. Until then, pray for discernment and wisdom. Know that some may be afraid to make that commitment. So, be patient, look and listen.

Keep reading. You'll find someone who's interested in the same reading material.



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